Dan Savage authors the syndicated weekly sex advice column, Savage Love, and is the editor of The Stranger, Seattle’s weekly newspaper. He’s also the author of several books, including The Kid, about gay parenting, and Skipping Towards Gomorrah, which looks at the Seven Deadly Sins in present-day America. His forthcoming book looks at gay marriage.
Dan spoke with Mark Adnum in April 2005.
MARK ADNUM: In one of your recent “Savage Love” columns, you reminded your readers that objectification can be “intensely sexy”. I loved that because for a long while now, the whole Queer Theory, crypto-Feminist bandwagon has complained that the worst thing anyone could do was objectify someone as a hunk/babe or be physically desirable themselves.
DAN SAVAGE: I think gay people gave that crap the flick long, long ago. The smothering, stultifying anti-sex police were chased from the scene a decade or more ago. Still, it never hurts to reinforce the power of positive objectification.
MA: Your drug-support payments idea sounded perfectly reasonable to me. Sexually active heteros have understood for millennia that sex can come with consequences, and many a horny young straight guy has grown old under twenty years of child-support payments after a hot quarter-hour in the back seat of a car. Why shouldn’t gays get with the times here too?
DS: Gay men with HIV are no longer the beloved baby harp seals they once were, and that realization is slowly sinking into even the thickest of gay skulls. I think AIDS meds should be available to all who need them, but there are too many gay men out there behaving with immoral and shocking disregard for the health of their sex partners and their communities — and they point to the effectiveness and availability of AIDS meds to justify their choices. Something has to be done to change the calculus.